The Who and What

Are you seriously dating and thinking about marriage? Are you engaged and planning a wedding?  Or are you newly married and trying to figure out the whole married life thing? Well, you’ve come to the right place!

I’m Abigail R. C. McManus, and I am a conflict intervenor, blogger, and wife.  I write for the anticipating girlfriend, the frazzled bride, and the imperfect wife.

Helping you to prepare before saying “yes,” organize your wedding planning to ensure your dream wedding day comes true, and figuring out your role as a “wife” afterward.

What should you know about me?

I love conflict – not causing it but resolving it in such a way that is constructive. I love conflict so much that I decided to become a Master of it! That is, I received my Master’s in Negotiation and Conflict Management and I now volunteer as a community mediator. In school, I learned how to confront conflict so that it didn’t cause further damage and resolve it in such a way that it was productive. The skills I learned in school has helped me in my everyday life, especially when planning my wedding and in my relationship with my husband.

I am a wife – my husband Bernard and I were married September 12, 2015. I know the struggles of being an anticipating girlfriend (I was one for eight years), a frazzled bride ( I planned a wedding for 200 guests while simultaneously working full-time and going to graduate school) and the imperfect wife ( The “wife” role will be an ongoing learning process).

Why am I writing this blog?

I want to impart to other girlfriends, brides, and wives the insights that I have learned throughout these points in my life.

For the girlfriends: I want to give you topics to get you and your boyfriend (and possibly soon-to-be fiancé) communicating and thinking about the future. My hope is to prepare you before taking the next step and to assist in making the transition from boyfriend/girlfriend to fiancé that much easier.

For the brides: Your wedding is the starting point for your marriage, and I believe the first day of the rest of your lives together should be nothing short of spectacular. Several vendors told me that I was the most organized and communicative bride they had ever encountered and because of those qualities plus additional strategies I acquired is why I think my husband and I’s wedding was magical and ran as smooth as it did. I want to share what worked and what didn’t and assist you in making your wedding day unforgettable and stress-free.

For the wives: I feel I will forever be learning and understanding my role as a wife. I am not perfect, I make mistakes, but I have my good moments as well. I want to share with other ladies, like me just trying to figure it out what I am going through and perhaps hear other’s stories to provide a sense of camaraderie so that we can grow and learn together.

I believe in love and marriage. I believe a couple has the power to have a relationship that withstands all the trials and tribulations life throws at them. My hope is that this blog will help to make the journey much smoother.